Montana n: A state of the northwest United States bordering on Canada. Admitted as the 41st state in 1889. The fourth largest state in the union, it includes vast prairies and numerous majestic mountain ranges.
Syn: Treasure State, Big Sky Country, Last Best Place.
Jones n: slang. An addiction or very deep craving.
Sunday, March 06, 2005
Touching Friends
- R__:
- So have you been in touch with your friend M__ since your move?
- Me:
- Yes, I went and saw her the other weekend. She is pretty much the only friend I have in this state. I have been talking with her pretty regularly.
- R__:
- That's cool. How are things with the two of you?
- Me:
- Well, things are good. When we hang out together it's almost like we never broke up.
- R__:
- Uh, oh. Be careful with that. Someone could get hurt if you end up holding the torch again.
- Me:
- She broke up with me, and neither of us has found anyone else yet. It's just comfortable is all.
- R__:
- It's really hard to make friends out of someone you have dated you know. When I went back to * recently and saw D__ it was really emotional to leave again.
- Me:
- uh, huh
- R__:
- Nothing happened or anything, but staying at his place in his guestroom was the most comfortable place I stayed while I was there. I just know him so well and am so comfortable with him. But it was really hard to say goodbye at the airport again. Like breaking out in tears sort of hard.
- Me:
- Well, it's not quite the same with M__ and I.
- R__:
- I'm sure it's not, I'm just saying, in my experience it is really hard to make a friend out of someone I have dated. If I were to move back to * it would be too easy to fall into the habit of hanging out with him all the time just because he was the only person I know. It would be like dating again. But in the end we would have to break up again because I know that there are too many differences and I could never marry him and a long relationship just wouldn't work.
- Me:
- Yea, I understand, but at the same time I don't think there is anything wrong with spending time with someone who is comfortable to be with. Or holding hands or dancing close or any of that.
- R__:
- All I am saying is be careful, these things stir up emotions and when there are emotions involved it makes it too easy for someone to get hurt again. Like if one of you starts to see someone else there could be hurt feelings for the other person.
- Me:
- Well yea, but if there is communication and everyone knows where they stand; I mean, we are all grownups here. It's okay to have touching friends. It's okay to enjoy a moment with someone.
- R__:
- Just be careful.
There is more Jones in the archives: February 2005 March 2005 April 2005 May 2005 June 2005 July 2005 August 2005 September 2005 October 2005 November 2005 December 2005 January 2006 February 2006 March 2006 April 2006 May 2006 June 2006 July 2006 August 2006 September 2006 October 2006 November 2006 December 2006 January 2007 February 2007 March 2007 April 2007 May 2007 June 2007 July 2007 August 2007 September 2007 October 2007 November 2007 December 2007 January 2008 February 2008 March 2008 April 2008 May 2008 June 2008 July 2008 August 2008 September 2008 October 2008 November 2008 December 2008 January 2009 February 2009 March 2009 April 2009 May 2009 June 2009 December 2009 January 2010 May 2014
