Montana Jones

Assumption

R_:

I haven't told anyone about the job change or that I might be leaving by the end of the year because in my experience people make assumptions and I don't want to lead people to think that I'm not interested in being friends or building relationships.

Me:

Well, isn't that like playing games? Can't you just live in the now and make friends and go to movies and do what you do and worry about later, well, later?

R_:

In my experience most people don't live in the now the way you do. For example when I was working in * my boss just assumed that because I was American I was not going to stay around very long and he always passed me over for promotions. When I pointed out to him what he was doing and that his entire local staff had already turned over and I was his longest employee, he admitted right away he was making an assumption and I got the promotion shortly after.

Me:

Hmm, I may not have the same experiences with human nature that you do, but I still think that not being completely yourself with your new friends is sort of game playing.

R_:

Trust me, this is how it should be. I don't want to lose my new friends just because of something that might happen maybe later on. I don't want them to stop inviting me to stuff because I may be leaving someday.

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So have you talked with K_ lately?

Me:

No not really, but I figured between her school and her new boyfriend she was pretty busy right now.

R_:

You see, you just did it. You just proved my point.

Posted by: Montana Jones / 6:52 AM