Montana Jones

Montana n: A state of the northwest United States bordering on Canada. Admitted as the 41st state in 1889. The fourth largest state in the union, it includes vast prairies and numerous majestic mountain ranges.
Syn: Treasure State, Big Sky Country, Last Best Place.

Jones n: slang. An addiction or very deep craving.

Thursday, May 19, 2005

Instant Messenger

Me:
So can I ask you a sex question? Sort of an informal poll?
She:
Sure, go ahead.
Me:
Do you tend to fantasize about doing acts to other people, or having others perform acts on you?
She:
hmm, I'll have to elaborate on this one... most of my fantasies are in the 3rd person, neither of which are "me" but usually I identify with one person or the other, as if I were the one doing the actions... I would have to say 90% of the time I fantasize about doing things to other people.
Me:
Ahh, okay. Thanks.
She:
lol, np... umm, glad I could help...
Me:
I had an epiphany the other night that my fantasies tend to be passive and I was not sure if that was normal.
She:
I would have to say for a man, it's not. Most American men are taught to be aggressive, sexually at least.
Me:
I was taught to be respectful of girls and not to touch them unless invited. The lesson sunk in too deep I think.
She:
lol, There are alot of women that don't mind having a guy that's not overly aggressive.
Me:
That's fine if they are kinky and can take the lead :)
She:
*chuckles* I didn't even mean kinky... some women are even hesitant to suggest different positions or even talk because they have a guy that does all that for them... what choice would they have if the guy didn't take the lead? Things would get boring really quick.
Me:
That's just sad. Actually I like the 50/50 partnership approach. Indulge my positions and I will indulge yours.
She:
I think that you will find most women have passive fantasies, while men have a tendency to take more dominant roles.... That's just my uneducated opinion though. What made you analyze your fantasies?
Me:
I'm seeing the ex this weekend and it is a safe bet that there will be nookie. It occurred to me that I was more looking forward to getting sex than to giving it. That got me thinking...
She:
*chuckles* when I think about sex, I don't think about how great I'm going to make someone else feel... the first thought is "ooh, I'm going to get some!" I think we're subconsciously selfish creatures.
Me:
I think it would be nice if I were prepared with an out of the usual fantasy to spice things a little. She can be a pretty passive person.
She:
Then find something spicy.
Me:
That's about it then, isn't it.
She:
It's not too tough to be kinky... smack her on the ass a few times. Say "who's your daddy" and pull her hair... lol
Me:
I don't think she is quite the 'who's your daddy' type girl, but what can she do really. Not put out? Hell, she already broke up with me.
She:
Yeah, but there goes future nookie and that's a bummer... I have never fucked an ex... I think that would be a little strange.
Me:
It is oddly comfortable.
She:
Isn't it hard to maintain that distance instead of bringing up past feelings?
Me:
Well, yeah. But in the end it really ends up being about sex. Getting it from a known safe and reliable source. It helps that you already know something of each other's kinks and quirks, so the sex ends up being pretty good.
Comments:
*clap clap clap* a lovely post. I do so love reading other peoples instant messenger fantasy talks...

ex sex is the best sex.

how do you know she doesn't want her hair pulled? you never know if you don't try. If she hates it....pretend it was an accident.

"oops, your hair got caught in my hand" tres sauve.
 
I think the mood has to be right if you're going to get into hair tugging. You can't be making sweet love and all of a sudden give her hair a yank. If it's an all out rough-I-haven't- gotten-laid-in-awhile kinda sex then I think it's appropriate to add in a little hair pulling. Too bad you're nearly bald or she could tug on yours.
 
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