Montana Jones

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Me:

So can I ask you a sex question? Sort of an informal poll?

She:

Sure, go ahead.

Me:

Do you tend to fantasize about doing acts to other people, or having others perform acts on you?

She:

hmm, I'll have to elaborate on this one... most of my fantasies are in the 3rd person, neither of which are "me" but usually I identify with one person or the other, as if I were the one doing the actions... I would have to say 90% of the time I fantasize about doing things to other people.

Me:

Ahh, okay. Thanks.

She:

lol, np... umm, glad I could help...

Me:

I had an epiphany the other night that my fantasies tend to be passive and I was not sure if that was normal.

She:

I would have to say for a man, it's not. Most American men are taught to be aggressive, sexually at least.

Me:

I was taught to be respectful of girls and not to touch them unless invited. The lesson sunk in too deep I think.

She:

lol, There are alot of women that don't mind having a guy that's not overly aggressive.

Me:

That's fine if they are kinky and can take the lead :)

She:

*chuckles* I didn't even mean kinky... some women are even hesitant to suggest different positions or even talk because they have a guy that does all that for them... what choice would they have if the guy didn't take the lead? Things would get boring really quick.

Me:

That's just sad. Actually I like the 50/50 partnership approach. Indulge my positions and I will indulge yours.

She:

I think that you will find most women have passive fantasies, while men have a tendency to take more dominant roles.... That's just my uneducated opinion though. What made you analyze your fantasies?

Me:

I'm seeing the ex this weekend and it is a safe bet that there will be nookie. It occurred to me that I was more looking forward to getting sex than to giving it. That got me thinking...

She:

*chuckles* when I think about sex, I don't think about how great I'm going to make someone else feel... the first thought is "ooh, I'm going to get some!" I think we're subconsciously selfish creatures.

Me:

I think it would be nice if I were prepared with an out of the usual fantasy to spice things a little. She can be a pretty passive person.

She:

Then find something spicy.

Me:

That's about it then, isn't it.

She:

It's not too tough to be kinky... smack her on the ass a few times. Say "who's your daddy" and pull her hair... lol

Me:

I don't think she is quite the 'who's your daddy' type girl, but what can she do really. Not put out? Hell, she already broke up with me.

She:

Yeah, but there goes future nookie and that's a bummer... I have never fucked an ex... I think that would be a little strange.

Me:

It is oddly comfortable.

She:

Isn't it hard to maintain that distance instead of bringing up past feelings?

Me:

Well, yeah. But in the end it really ends up being about sex. Getting it from a known safe and reliable source. It helps that you already know something of each other's kinks and quirks, so the sex ends up being pretty good.

Posted by: Montana Jones / 9:50 PM